#maybe it's just me being lithoromantic but I could not care less whether the person likes me back or not | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

theokusgallery · 18 days ago

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Actually. Thinking about it because of my last reblog, but to people who get into romantic relationships (including demiro people and such): why do people make it so awkward when an unrequited crush happens?

I've seen people end really strong friendships over the other person having feelings, but if that happened to me I feel like I'd just... be flattered? And take it as a sign that the person really likes me, and be glad? Crushes are just a form of affection, isn't it kind of the same thing as a friend telling you "I really like you as a person"?

If you wanted a relationship with them, it means you like them a lot, but just because they don't return it, you... leave?? Even though you felt that close to them?? Can people not just enjoy the feeling of having a crush and treat it as a casual thing that's just there? Why is it such a big deal. Having a crush is a pretty pleasant feeling from what people say. Just enjoy the feeling. What's the problem here

#Again #maybe it's just me being lithoromantic but I could not care less whether the person likes me back or not #I'd even rather they don't.#I honestly would love to just have a crush on someone who doesn't like me back and just... treat it as casual banter material.#It's just a feeling. It's really not that big a deal.#I don't get why people treat romantic love like it's so special. It's just a form of affection like any other.#my gender apathetic too-independent-for-a-relationship mom's still friend with her ex from 30 years ago sl #i guess i wasnt raised with the social expectation that staying friends with exes was a red flag #and even when i still dated i guess i was too poly to see it as Not a green flag (shocker)#if someone's still friend with their ex it shows a degree of emotional maturity in most instances imo. idk #people will see that as a red flag and if it isnt for cheating reasons (i dont understand the concept of cheating.) idk wtf thats about #--i UNDERSTAND the concept of cheating i just dont understand why 90% of people care about it #why do you want to be your s/o's one and only. external support systems are important #if the only person in your life who matters to you is your s/o thats a recipe for disaster #ok i'll stop rambling now. eurgh #rant #aromantic #open question

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